Comments on: Days of You and Me: Day 16, Into the Fire http://www.daysofyouandme.com/2009/07/21/days-of-you-and-me-day-16-into-the-fire/ Written and photographed by Jessica Monte Sat, 19 May 2012 14:59:26 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Green Mamma http://www.daysofyouandme.com/2009/07/21/days-of-you-and-me-day-16-into-the-fire/comment-page-1/#comment-2479 Green Mamma Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:26:00 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2721#comment-2479 Prasanna, like your mother, I've also shared a traditional way of feeling safe with Annabelle; I've told her that she has four angels that stand beside her bed at night and who watch over her and protect her. I actually believe this myself, :-) And I pray to my angels all the time. Amber, I love it! What a great physical way of releasing one's fears, and I bet this can work wonders with children too. I remember reading something a while back about envisioning the release of balloons that contain our worries and problems. MamaTea, again thank you! I like that your youngest has an alien doll that catches good stuff for dreaming, :-) Like your aunt, I keep a God box where I write down and hand over my fears and worries to God (though I really like that your aunt keeps cards as reminders of the good happy thoughts we (all) so need from time to time). As for the 2 kids' concerns, I am going to give it my best effort to welcome change (so hard for me to do . . . always has been), share what I can about my experiences here, and turn to friends and family when I need time and peace. How else do we all manage to stay sane when we're living the crazy life that is that of raising kids and being a family? Prasanna, like your mother, I’ve also shared a traditional way of feeling safe with Annabelle; I’ve told her that she has four angels that stand beside her bed at night and who watch over her and protect her. I actually believe this myself, :-) And I pray to my angels all the time.

Amber, I love it! What a great physical way of releasing one’s fears, and I bet this can work wonders with children too. I remember reading something a while back about envisioning the release of balloons that contain our worries and problems.

MamaTea, again thank you! I like that your youngest has an alien doll that catches good stuff for dreaming, :-) Like your aunt, I keep a God box where I write down and hand over my fears and worries to God (though I really like that your aunt keeps cards as reminders of the good happy thoughts we (all) so need from time to time). As for the 2 kids’ concerns, I am going to give it my best effort to welcome change (so hard for me to do . . . always has been), share what I can about my experiences here, and turn to friends and family when I need time and peace. How else do we all manage to stay sane when we’re living the crazy life that is that of raising kids and being a family?

]]> By: MamaTea http://www.daysofyouandme.com/2009/07/21/days-of-you-and-me-day-16-into-the-fire/comment-page-1/#comment-2470 MamaTea Tue, 21 Jul 2009 16:09:28 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2721#comment-2470 Great post...and lovely pictures. In the past I've also done the fire thing to help let go of things. As far as my kids fears, which only seem to come at night, they both have "good dream blankets" (blankets they dubbed as magical because they have satin bindings) and my youngest has an alien doll hanging from the wires of the top bunk (he's in the bottom bunk) and says its his dream catcher that only catches good dreams. My aunt told me the other day that when her kids would have bad dreams at night or consuming bad thoughts during the day, she had a box of index cards filled with happy things written on each card. When her kids needed a happy thought, they would go to the box and pick a card and then my aunt would somehow slip the card "into their brain". Sidenote: One kids to two kids is an adjustment, but it *will* happen. Life is what it is...until its not anymore. Welcome the change. I wish you peace :) Great post…and lovely pictures. In the past I’ve also done the fire thing to help let go of things.

As far as my kids fears, which only seem to come at night, they both have “good dream blankets” (blankets they dubbed as magical because they have satin bindings) and my youngest has an alien doll hanging from the wires of the top bunk (he’s in the bottom bunk) and says its his dream catcher that only catches good dreams.

My aunt told me the other day that when her kids would have bad dreams at night or consuming bad thoughts during the day, she had a box of index cards filled with happy things written on each card. When her kids needed a happy thought, they would go to the box and pick a card and then my aunt would somehow slip the card “into their brain”.

Sidenote: One kids to two kids is an adjustment, but it *will* happen. Life is what it is…until its not anymore. Welcome the change. I wish you peace :)

]]> By: Amber http://www.daysofyouandme.com/2009/07/21/days-of-you-and-me-day-16-into-the-fire/comment-page-1/#comment-2469 Amber Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:58:48 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2721#comment-2469 That sounds like a great idea. I know my kids would love it. We don't have any rituals with our daughter. She actually has very few fears, or at least few she's ever given voice to. She's surprisingly brave considering I am absolutely not. As for me, I actually do have a ritual, believe it or not. It's more for letting go of my worries, but worries and fears are more or less the same. I make a cup out of my hands and 'blow' my worry into them as if I'm blowing a bubble. Then I toss the fear away and let it float off into the sky. Somehow it helps me feel better and let it go. :) That sounds like a great idea. I know my kids would love it.

We don’t have any rituals with our daughter. She actually has very few fears, or at least few she’s ever given voice to. She’s surprisingly brave considering I am absolutely not.

As for me, I actually do have a ritual, believe it or not. It’s more for letting go of my worries, but worries and fears are more or less the same. I make a cup out of my hands and ‘blow’ my worry into them as if I’m blowing a bubble. Then I toss the fear away and let it float off into the sky. Somehow it helps me feel better and let it go. :)

]]> By: Prasanna http://www.daysofyouandme.com/2009/07/21/days-of-you-and-me-day-16-into-the-fire/comment-page-1/#comment-2468 Prasanna Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:40:26 +0000 http://www.greenmamma.org/blog/?p=2721#comment-2468 Thanks for sharing this mystical evening with us. This is a great way to bond a family and draw strength from that bond. When I was a little kid, my mom taught me a magical prayer to say to ward off nightmares and make very intimidating events easy (like defending your thesis). It really works! ;) I taught this same prayer to my son. Letting go of the fear makes all things much easier. Maybe like FDR said "...the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance. " Thanks for sharing this mystical evening with us. This is a great way to bond a family and draw strength from that bond.

When I was a little kid, my mom taught me a magical prayer to say to ward off nightmares and make very intimidating events easy (like defending your thesis). It really works! ;)
I taught this same prayer to my son. Letting go of the fear makes all things much easier. Maybe like FDR said “…the only thing we have to fear is fear itself—nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance. “

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